The following is a list of websites that I personally found useful when researching NPD, BPD and Codependency. Their inclusion on the list is not an endorsement of the quality of information contained at these sites or the services offered by their owners/contributors. Please read the terms of use before visiting any of the websites listed here.
Click on a link below to fast navigate to websites for the following conditions:
This website belongs to Dr Sam Vaknin the author of the book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited". He is diagnosed with having NPD. Please note that Dr Vaknin is not a Doctor of Psychology or Medicine.
He has researched NPD and shares his learning's, thoughts and insight with others online. He regularly posts on online forums answering questions relating to NPD and Narcissistic behaviour. Dr Vaknin also leaves reviews on websites where books relating to NPD are sold and writes articles for other websites.
The website describes his own story of living with NPD. Essays relating to NPD can be accessed as well as answers to questions on how a Narcissist comes in to being, the feelings they have, the life they live... basically the reason why they do things that unintentionally/intentionally hurt others - their need for narcissistic supplies.
As a result of his online presence (and his own explanation for it - his need to cultivate narcissistic supplies) I thought it was important to do my own research and read books written by different authors.
TIP (provided by a visitor): If you want to search the web for information on narcissism without getting results for Dr Vaknin you can enter the words you're looking for followed by "-vakinin" e.g. "narcissism -vaknin" or "narcissistic -vaknin"
This works quite well but some of his writings will still be displayed in the results because he doesn't always use his name.
This website is based in the US and provides information about lots of mental health issues.
The above link will take you to the section of the website that deals with NPD.
This website is a public messaging and discussion forum for registered users who have experienced life with someone they believe/know has NPD.
There are a number of read only articles about Narcissism, the family, divorce etc.
Dr Sam Vaknin is also a contributor to this site. It may be worth remembering that the people you are communicating with have been hurt by suspected Narcissists and they are not mental health professionals.
If you're looking for an alternative to Dr Vaknin this might be for you. The forum no longer accepts members but you can still read the posts and articles.
This website is based in the UK and is a registered charity. The authors (many of whom live with mental illness) aim to raise awareness of BPD and provide support services including forums, live chat, an information line and a helpline. The site is geared towards those who suffer from BPD and those who live with them.
This site offers information on Dialectal Behavior Therapy (DBT) from those who have been through DBT.
It presents a number of articles on BPD and DBT and has a section on "mindfulness lessons" including Core Mindfulness, Observing, Describing, Participating and Nonjudgmental Stance.
This website is affiliated with The University Hospital of Columbia and Cornell in the US. It provides information on the diagnosis of BPD, treatment and information. In particular it has long listing of recommended books relating to BPD and is broken down into areas relevant to Children and Adolescents, Co-occuring Disorders, DBT, Families, General, Medication, Psychotherapy, Relationships and Self-Injury.
This website is run by people who's lives are exposed to BPD, some of the sites contributors have been diagnosed as a having the condition.
It has an "Ask the Therapist" area where visitors who have a question can email Michael J. Formica, who is stated as being a board qualified Therapist (in the US). All questions are posted online. There is a disclaimer on the website which explains that answers to questions are not intended to be a substitute for therapy. There is also a section to get support from volunteers who are suffers themselves.
The website has a message board and there is a chat room facility which requires a browser that supports Java.
The website lists many articles written by those diagnosed with BPD, Doctors and published Authors.
Formed by someone who lives with a sufferer of BPD. Our aim is to help others understand this mental health condition by providing:
This site was recommended by SL as a good source for both Borderlines and non-BDP's.
Alan Rappoport describes the term "co-narcissism" as those who "adapted to life with narcissistic people", A.K.A. "people pleasers". Interestingly Rappoport describes that a co-narcissist can display narcissistic and co-narcissistic behaviour in different settings/relationships as a result of the narcissistic exposure they have had in early childhood.
The organisation offers support to Codependents through organised meetings and literature. They follow The Twelve Step program and have Twelve Traditions. The site describes the patterns and characteristics of codependency.
The UK branch of Co-Dependents Anonymous. Lists meeting schedules but not all areas of the UK are covered.
This US based site explains the origins of Codependency in dysfunctional families and the likely characteristics and behaviours of a Codependent.
This site provides a great deal of information on mental illness through links to other sites. It has information on NPD, BPD and various other conditions. It also has a section on Dependent Personality Disorder (DPS) and has gone as far as linking this with Codependency. I have looked for literature/research to support this but haven't found any so far. Whilst there are some similarities I feel it is different because what I've read indicates sufferers of DPS avoid responsibility, needing to be taken care of on a daily basis whereas co-dependents are actually care takers who shoulder responsibility but I may be in denial!... so I'd be interested in hearing from anyone with any detailed references on how these two conditions are the same or different.
Describes Dependent Personality Disorder.
Describes Dependent Personality Disorder.
The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy provides a listing of members who are trained mental health professionals. If you're looking for a private Therapist or Counsellor in the UK this is probably a good place to start as you can search for a Therapist in your area by putting in your town or postcode.
If you visit your Doctor they may be able to refer you for counselling via the National Health Service but this service isn't available in some areas.
This websites has a listing of Counsellors and Therapists within the UK. You can search by town or postcode to find someone near you and it includes information on rates.
It also includes some information on personality disorders.
